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Tuesday, 15 March 2016

Custody By Manju Kapur



Author :- Manju Kapur
Pages:- 239
Paperback

Book Blurb

Raman is a marketing executive with brilliant prospects at a multinational company; Shagun is his alluring wife. Along with their two adorable children- Arjun who looks just like her and Roohi who just looks like him-the couple seem to have the perfect life.
But when Raman's new boss - the older, urbane Ashok- enters the picture and Shagun decides her marriage is over, husband and wife become locked in a bitter battle over their children. While the children's custody is thrown into question, with them torn between homes, parents and countries, the childless Ishita is drawn to Raman and a chance at familial fulfilment.
Custody is a captivating story of love and loss. Gently satirical, it is told with quiet restraint, honesty and clear-sightedness, once again confirming Manju Kapur's reputation as the great chronicler of the modern Indian family.

Plot (According to my understanding)

After reading the blurb and studying the cover, I felt the book was all about the legal drama that engulfs a family which decides to part ways for whatever reasons. It outlines how the children and other related family gets affected by all of it and how these young children end up becoming mere pawns in the whole courtroom episode. The book deals with society's outlook towards an estranged couple and the kids specially. What I couldn't decipher was the role that a childless Ishita has to play in the story! Will she be the mother that both Arjun and Roohi deserved or does she have a bigger role to play in the overly twisted lives of the kids and Raman? And I surely got my answers after I read the entire book!

The Characters

Even though the family looks complete, happy and content with two beautiful children, Raman having a steady job and Shagun taking care of the house and children, there's something that just deepens the gap between them. Manju Kapur has tried her best to create characters that one can easily relate to, She not only outlines very prominent social issues but also various dynamics of a family as a whole.

  • Raman is a successful marketing executive who not only is the best at work but also loves everyone in his family be it his wife, kids, parents or his in-laws. His mother in law (Shagun's mother) dotes on him and often calls him, her own son. He is much in love with Shagun and can go to any extent to keep her happy. The divorce does take a toll on him and we discover a new dimension to his character. To me, Raman was pretty understandable and one does end up feeling sad about how Shagun treated him.
  • Shagun is someone I disliked from the time she was introduced in the book. Just because one is married at an early stage of life, you cannot in any circumstance hate your child! She comes across as an egoistic woman who solely cared of herself . She steps out of her marriage though sub consciously, she realizes that Raman wasn't at any fault. All she values is her freedom and happiness, and in the process ruins the happiness of 3 important people of her life and people connected to them! Her selfishness not only makes her take a drastic step of separating from Raman but her alleged lover, Ashok too leaves her in the later stage of the book.
  • Arjun and Roohi The kids can be rightly called pawns used in the courtroom drama. While both of them are quite young, Arjun is at a stage where he can comprehend whatever happened in front of his eyes. He is deeply affected by the divorce and secludes himself from the outside world. He finds it difficult to attend school since the separation of his parents is a 'hot' topic in his school. Since he is not very expressive, he's not able to show/tell Raman how much he misses him. Shagun and Ashok (Also Raman's boss and Shagun's lover) send him off to a boarding school which tragically ends the realation between Raman and Arjun.
    Being quite young when the separation happened, Roohi has no memories of a happy family. She is raised up by her father, Raman and his second wife, Ishita. Both, Ishita and Roohi bond like a real mother-daughter.
  • Ashok Khanna He's the main antagonist resulting in the divorce between Raman and Shagun. His brilliance, worldliness and supportive nature results in Shagun falling for him. He boasts of an academic career from a very reputed Ivy League school and is very intelligent. However in the later half, we find out that he too leaves Shagun which proves her to be a selfish woman. Inspite of being with a man she now loved, she could just not do away with her past life. The custodial disputes are of major worry for her.  Everything revolved around her own little world.
  • Ishita She represents the women who have enough courage to voice their opinions. Her tragic past life does not deter her from picking up all the broken pieces and starting life afresh! She marries Raman and becomes a mother Roohi never had. She is a very warm person. I somehow feel that the possessiveness she had developed for Roohi, made the relationship of Raman-Shagun even more fragile.
 This is the first time I've read a book by Manju Kapur and I'm glad I did. Manju has a very unique way of story-telling. She beautifully talks about how Divorce affects a family and specially children. I like how she has sketched each and every character. Being set in the 90's, It's a very bold step to talk about divorce and its consequences.

General Thoughts

I only wish she had etched out Shagun's character with more depth and given her a solid reason to separate from Raman. Even though having an extra marital affair is not accepted in the Indian society, there should have been a more in-depth reason of her cheating her husband. There's nothing that we know about WHY did she want to separate from Raman. She just separates! I feel there should have been some sort of confrontation to help readers understand Shagun more easily.
                                                                                           
Ishita who came across as everything that Shagun was not, ends up becoming a huge mess towards the end of the book. She becomes so over protective of Roohi that she does not allow her to meet Shagun (her biological mother) at all!  She became a bit difficult to understand!


You will enjoy Custody  if you are a fan of reality and books dealing with issues of separation and custody of the children involved.


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Friday, 1 January 2016

A New Beginning





What a year it has been! 2015 has by far been the most amazing year I've lived in! Now that 2016 is finally here, I welcome it with open arms and pray that it brings prosperity and loads of success for each one of us! 




I stopped making resolutions a long time ago because I don't think I can handle the pressure that these resolutions bring in. Instead, I make tiny achievable goals and try my best to surpass them!
This year, I really want to do more of blogging, vlogging and reading.
This year I want to make a significant change in my lifestyle.
This year I want to spread happiness.
This year I want to live life
This year I want every one associated to me, be successful in all their endeavors.

I wish all my readers and well wishers a prosperous New Year. 











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Wednesday, 2 April 2014

Bumpy Rides





In a country where every household owns at least 3 cars and a scooter/motorcycle, travelling in an Auto-Rickshaw is quite a fascinating thought! Around 2 years ago, I was really excited at the thought of travelling in Auto Rickshaws independently. Along with helping me commute from one place to the other easily, It also brought in a sense of independence, responsibility of carrying myself decently in the public place. It made me a bit more mature. I was now careful of what dress I am wearing, how much of money will I have to pay for a certain distance and how to be firm on giving a set amount and not budge from my decision! It's quite a task!


From my experience, I have learnt that these Auto drivers have made a business out of it! Its not the comfort of the commuter that matters them, Its the money they'd be paid matters. Some of them would even harass a lonely girl by either whistling or staring back from the rear view mirror. I am lucky enough to have not faced such a situation and I'd never want something like this to happen to any one!
The meter was made a compulsory device for all auto rikshaws but not even 1 (I guess I have traveled in a century of them!)  has had a working meter installed in it! If this is not harassment, then what is! We are being harassed to pay more than what it takes to reach our destination which could just be 5 km's away! 
The Government officials, police department can ensure that every auto rickshaw has a working meter installed in it, but to what extent? Isn't it the moral duty of drivers to ensure that every machine attached to their auto should be prim and proper? Shouldn't they keep humanity above their business mind?

This post has been written for the Blogging from A-Z Challenge  where excluding Sundays of this month, we have to blog everyday with a corresponding letter from the alphabet. More on it Here

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Wednesday, 26 March 2014

Wednesday Wisdom


I am starting a new tag on my blog known as 'Wednesday Wisdom' wherein I may share a picture/article or a quote that some how invokes in me the 'Aha' mode. Below I have posted a careercature published in today's supplement of Jobs and Careers (The Tribune) How aptly does it define the situation of current and upcoming generations!! 
With due respect to Mr Sandeep Joshi
(The Tribune)

'Sir, after doing B.Tech in Facebook and M.Tech in Twitter, I am training in WhatsApp '



What do you feel about this caricature? Let me know your thoughts in the comments section below!!

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Friday, 21 March 2014

A to Z April Challenge


Had I stumbled upon it a month ago, I would have never thought of doing it this year. With 12th Board exams going on, I would be some one really crazy to even think of anything other than my books, exams and the questions I have to mug up. We are almost done with the dreaded month of exams- March and yet to my utter disappointment I am left with 3 exams. Ever since I have started taking exams, I am accustomed to a maximum of three study leaves.It is the first time ever (I do hope such a thing never happens!) I have a minimum of ten study leaves in between two exams. The whole day crawls by making me either watch TV, surf net or read a book. Its only the last four-five days before my exam that I really study and that too without any other activity on my mind.. We'll talk about all this on a later stage but today, this blog post comes with a purpose.

Since I have a lot of study leaves and all I do is waste time watching TV or surf net, I thought it would be wonderful if I could challenge myself to write everyday randomly yet based on the Alphabet? Since this is my first year at the A to Z April Challenge, I am doing it randomly. This challenge requires you to post every day from April 1st to 30th with Sundays being rest days. Removing 4 Sundays of the month, we are left with 26 days which enables us to write everyday using the alphabet.


A lot of factors inspired me to take up this exciting challenge :
  • The Challenge is being run by a very professional team. Every year thousands of bloggers come together and contribute to make this challenge a big success. The instructions and guidelines are very simple, easy to comprehend. Interesting banners and badges tickle your creative instincts and you get motivated to write.
     
  • Blogging changes your outlook. You tend to take a look at your surroundings from the perspective of a blogger, but to write every day for a month is where the real challenge lies. It helps your brain stay active and think of the content you can put up on your blog. You learn new things every day. Some issues you thought could not be written into a blog post, suddenly become the central point in your blog.You start envisioning things in a new light.
  • It is a wonderful platform to meet new people, understand various blogging techniques, writing styles and the way people present an idea, simple as it may sound. 
Do challenges excite you? Do you have a thing for writing? If yes, you can sign up Here. I am sure we all will learn a lot from this challenge and work towards our passion of writing.





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Monday, 5 August 2013

Lets Quote it!

There are a few quotes which always leave a great impact on you. Some such quotes are given below

  •  If we all could see the world through the eyes of a child, we would see the magic in everything.

  • Keep people in your life that truly love you, motivate you and encourage you. If you have people not doing these things, let them go.
  • You cannot be good enough for everybody, but you'll be the best for the one who deserves you.
  • Don't compare your life to others. You have no Idea what their life is all about!
  • The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. It is priceless & once it's gone you can never get it back, so choose carefully to whom you give your gift.
  • Live simply, care deeply & treat others with kindness. You never know what other people are going through. Kindness has the power to lift their spirits.
  • I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar.
  • Live your life, take chances, be crazy. Don't wait cause right now is the oldest you've ever been & the youngest you'll ever be
  • Wherever you go, no matter what the weather is, carry your sunshine along with you!
  • Behind every sweet smile, there is a bitter sadness that no one can ever see and feel.

Sunday, 4 August 2013

Friends Forever

My very first attempt at poetry! Please share your views!

i love all my friends

i thank GOD for showing me this trend

of love and friends.

they are my lifeline

and help me outshine

in the rat race of  excellence

they spread their fragrance

as the rose amidst its thorns.

together we cry 

together we say hi!!

together we play 

together we say

FRIENDS FOREVER

AND EVER!!!

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Speechless Saturday











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Friday, 2 August 2013

Of religion and Belief


India being a diverse country has people following many religions. Hinduism, Sikhism, Christianity to name a few. Each religion has its own rules, traditions, customs one has to follow. But there's one thing common in all religions, you are remembering that one supreme power, whatever name you may give!

We remember God whenever we are in stress, have been struck in a severe problem or are just not happy with the circumstances. We walk miles to reach a particular temple, spend a lump sum on donations. But is all this "Social Exhibition" worth it?  Are you really sure your prayers are being heard when at one side you leave no leaf unturned to become a proper religious person and on the other side you have dirt filled in your mind? You are not a balanced person yet you ask others to maintain balance in their life? Prayers said in silence, without letting any one know about it, without any one asking you to pray, are the one's which are truly effective. You can help the needy, distressed, and are always calm with everything you do- that's when your prayers (Verbal or not) are effective.
Praying 24*7 before your exams, in times of crisis and then forgetting about every single word you said in front of the Almighty- Is this your belief? Weren't we always taught the motto "Give to be Given"? You want God to help you, but do you thank Him in your happy times? Do you tell Him about the amazing happy moments you experience everyday?

If not, I am sorry, my friends, you are no way religious! You are just pretending to be one and it just won't help you!! There's a popular hindi saying "कर्म करते जा, फल की चिंता मत कर " If you do good deeds, No one can question your intentions and you will never ever feel the need to fake your feelings and become a religious person even if you are an atheist in your head!
Come my friends, lets understand the true meaning of religion and believe what our mind, heart wants us to do, not what our fellow people are doing. Following a religion is not at all bad, following it blindly and blaming it when you don't succeed is bad.

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Thursday, 1 August 2013

August Aagman



The alarm rings  and tells me its the most dreaded time of the day- 6 30 AM. I search for my phone all over my bed, turn off the alarm and go back to sleep. I then realize that the day I wait for, the whole year (after my Birthday) is finally here! Its the 1st of August, onset of the most favourite month after May.

A subtle smile spreads all over thinking about the various functions, parties, celebrations and holidays in the month! I really couldn't ask for more!!

To celebrate the love that I have for August, I pledge to write every single day till the end of August. I really hope, I'll succeed in this venture!!

Happy August guys! 
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